When it comes to participating in self inquiry groups like these, my conditioned mind can unconsciously make the facilitator into an authority
Perhaps without realising, we do what others tell us to do. Other people advise us what to think; persuade us what to believe in.
All this began with our parents, our teachers, our bosses and the political leaders. In the larger scheme of things it’s always been part of human history to look up to kings, queens, generals, priests and gurus. Thinking for ourselves has often, in fact, been rather a risky business, with all these authorities around who have “say” and we don’t.
When I do not have anybody explicitly guiding me or telling me how to act, I may feel lost: perhaps entitled even to the safety of a protective power. I may fear those in control, yet fear more the absence of them.
So when it comes to participating in self inquiry groups like these, my conditioned mind can automatically make the facilitator into an authority. A figure to appreciate or to criticise. I might not be aware that I am doing either: just as I’m not aware of the influence of authority that might unwittingly be dictating my thoughts and outlook.
And, as a facilitator, am I aware of these unconscious patterns of control and authority operating within me? Am I compensating for unresolved worthlessness within and do I run the danger of practising deep-rooted spiritual bypassing? Our leaders might have a tendency to depict these characteristics and I may want to look closely at this, whatever the context!
I have discovered, as a facilitator and organiser of groups, that I can feel responsible for others. Does this concern hide my own lack of inner accountability? Am I fully responsible in myself, first? Looking to or for others, may be a very well concealed distraction. It may also be at the root of division.
If there is to be genuine investigation of a theme happening in a group, there cannot be any sense that the facilitator knows or should know more than me. Or that I know more than them. Can I see the issues in dialogue, as they emerge, for myself? Face the music honestly and alone – yet circled in relationship with others.
Following or being followed, must always be an avoidance of what is. However impressive the followed and following might be!
So really, we are all “facilitators” in a dialogue: facilitating the exploration as it operates (or fails to operate) between us. Am I fully present and listening carefully to what is taking place in the dialogue – or am I leaving it up to others to do the work? Leaving it to someone more capable than me: or withdrawing from those I see as less able.
Is there really any need for anyone to assume ascendancy when we are friends looking together, equally interested, equally engaged with the questions at hand?
